Confidence and Self Confidence
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Sunday, 8 April 2007 |
Do you shy away when you wish that you could join in? Do you feel that sometimes you are just not good enough to achieve something? Are you always putting yourself down? Well if so then you may have an issue with your confidence. Low self esteem or a lack of self confidence is something that affects many people throughout their lives, so it is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact hundreds of leading personalities and even world leaders at one time suffered at the hands of a lack of self confidence. For many years people have been using Hypnosis and Self Hypnosis to beat their low self esteem and enjoy new found confidence – but does it really work?
Hello my name is Richard MacKenzie and I am a clinical hypnotherapist and also the author of a book called Self-Change Hypnosis, which is a book that helps people with many things, including gaining confidence. Now I guess that you have realised that from my introduction and the fact that I am a hypnotherapist that my answer to the question about hypnosis ‘does is really work?’ may be a little biased, so instead I want to tell you ‘why’ is works.
Hypnosis works by re-programming the part of your brain that we refer to as your sub-conscious mind. When you have a lack of self confidence of low self esteem, you run a series of beliefs, habits and programs through your conscious and sub-conscious minds that allow you to feel its effects. Hypnosis changes all that by changing the way that you think, feel and act towards yourself. With hypnosis you can achieve so much in the area of building your confidence, self worth and self esteem. Once the sub-conscious part of your mind has been re-programmed then you will naturally feel great – oozing with confidence and self belief.
While in the state of hypnosis, you will feel relaxed and secure. It is a great chance to just let go from the stresses of the world and just have some YOU time! In fact you will probably love the feeling of being in hypnosis that you will want to practise it regularly as it is a really great and unique feeling to experience. You can enjoy the benefits of hypnosis in many ways, however I suggest that you start with a hypnosis download, recording or visiting your local hypnotherapist. |
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Face the Future With Confidence
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Wednesday, 28 March 2007 |
Have you ever found yourself lacking the confidence needed to do your job successfully? You’re not alone! How can you develop more confidence not only in your career but in your life as well?
First off, find out what makes you a star. Gather a notebook and get to work! Make two columns. One column will be all of your best qualities. Don’t hold back, patronize yourself! You’re obviously smart; you’re reading a great article aren’t you? Yes, go ahead and include your eighth grade spelling bee win. This list isn’t just about qualities; it is also about your accomplishments. You may ask friends close to you what habits they appreciate about you and include these comments as well.
Please take a few moments to meditate on what you have written – these are all the reasons why you are a valuable employee.
Now, in the second column, honestly record some of the items you know that you could do better in. There is no shame in admitting these, we all have weaknesses. Some are worse than others. Admitting them is the first step toward fixing them.
At this point, meditate only on your column of good habits. This list is your personal cheerleader. When you feel that a task is too difficult to perform, feel free to pull out your list and reexamine why you are a valuable employee and a good person.
So you have a whole page of great qualities, but you still feel that you’re just not good at your job. What can make it better?
Fear is the unknown. Anytime we are in a situation that is uncommon, we are going to have a degree of fear. What is the best way to conquer such fear? Stare it straight in the eyes. How? The more we know about what to expect, the less fear we will have.
Research the goal or task troubling you. Find out how it can be accomplished, just as if you were preparing for battle. What qualities do those who have faced this task successfully had that you are lacking? Many times you will find that those less equipped than you have done a good job at the assignment in question. This fact will give you more confidence. Tackle your task with both guns blazing, and don’t look back.
With each accomplishment, take a moment to recognize what you have achieved. Even write them down in your notebook for future consideration.
We all have what it takes to be great, no matter what our background or lifestyle has been in the past. But in order to take advantage of our true abilities, we must let go of the culture of failure that is holding us back. Such culture can come from our upbringing, our co-workers, our friends, or simply through challenging circumstances that have faced us all.
Do not be content to follow the leader. Instead, use your mind to contemplate how and why rules work. Doing so will instill in you principles that you can carry with you through different jobs the rest of your life.
Finding your inner strength is the key to happiness and success. Now that you have your notebook of success, and a list of what you need keep working on, you can face the world with confidence that you are a proven winner!
As the fifth born son of a young mother and an immigrant father, Daniel Lakstins understands adversity, and how to overcome it. His story is of what can be accomplished when you work hard and never settle for less that your best. Combining this background with more than 20 years of business and managerial experience provides a perspective that is both fresh and educational. Daniel now works as a successful business owner, author, and motivational speaker. |
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Assertive Communication: 20 Helpful Tips
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Monday, 26 February 2007 |
Most of us know that assertiveness will get you further in life than being passive or aggressive. But few of us were actually taught how to be assertive. Here are some helpful tips.
1. Choose the right time. Imagine you’re dashing down the hall on your way to a meeting. Lisa passes by. You call out, “Can you have the Microsoft project out by Tuesday?” Because you haven’t scheduled a special time to bring up the issue, Lisa has no reason to think your request deserves high priority.
2. Choose the right place. Discuss important issues in a private, neutral location.
3. Be direct. For example, “Lisa, I would like you to work overtime on the Microsoft project.” Whether or not Lisa likes your request, she respects you for your directness.
4. Say “I,” not “we.” Instead of saying, “We need the project by Tuesday,” say, “I would like you to finish the project by Tuesday.”
5. Be specific. Instead of, “Put a rush on the Microsoft project,” say, “I would like the Microsoft project finished and on Joe’s desk by 9:00 Tuesday morning.”
6. Use body language to emphasize your words. “Lisa, I need that report Tuesday morning,” is an assertive statement. But if you mumble this statement while staring at the floor, you undermine your message.
7. Confirm your request. Ask your staff to take notes at meetings. At the end of each meeting, ask your group to repeat back the specifics that were agreed upon. This minimizes miscommunication.
8. Stand up for yourself. Don’t allow others to take advantage of you; insist on being treated fairly. Here are a few examples: “I was here first,” “I’d like more coffee, please,” “Excuse me, but I have another appointment,” “Please turn down the radio,” or “This steak is well done, but I asked for medium rare.”
9. Learn to be friendly with people you would like to know better. Do not avoid people because you don’t know what to say. Smile at people. Convey that you are happy to see them.
10. Express your opinions honestly. When you disagree with someone, do not pretend to agree. When you are asked to do something unreasonable, ask for an explanation.
11. Share your experiences and opinions. When you have done something worthwhile, let others know about it.
12. Learn to accept kind words. When someone compliments you, say, “Thank you.”
13. Maintain eye contact when you are in a conversation.
14. Don’t get personal. When expressing annoyance or criticism, comment on the person’s behavior rather than attacking the person. For example: “Please don’t talk to me that way,” rather than, “What kind of jerk are you?”
15. Use “I” statements when commenting on another’s behavior. For example: “When you cancel social arrangements at the last minute, it’s extremely inconvenient and I feel really annoyed.”
16. State what you want. If appropriate, ask for another behavior. (“I think we’d better sit down and try to figure out how we can make plans together and cut down on this kind of problem.”)
17. Look for good examples. Pay attention to assertive people and model your behavior after theirs.
18. Start slowly. Express your assertiveness in low-anxiety situations at first; don’t leap into a highly emotional situation until you have more confidence. Most people don’t learn new skills overnight.
19. Reward yourself each time you push yourself to formulate an assertive response. Do this regardless of the response from the other person.
20. Don’t put yourself down when you behave passively or aggressively. Instead, identify where you went off course and learn how to improve. |
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